Why do Christian Marriages Divorce?

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    Have you ever pondered that hard question? Wouldn’t you think that Christians would distinctly stand out with a low divorce rate?

As I consider this question my thoughts run something like this: Maybe couples are operating with an incorrect definition of what a Christian marriage is or how a Christian lives. I wonder if they are wrestling with biblical truth. Perhaps they just don’t think it is that big of a deal to daily examine their attitudes, thoughts and actions in light of God’s principles and the attitudes of Christ – -especially as it relates to their marriage.

The first assumption of a “Christian marriage” would be . . . . . both spouses are Christians! Both have been saved from their sins by God’s grace through placing their faith in the work of Christ on the cross.

Listen to the words of Jesus found in Matthew 7:21-23, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.”

Jesus is talking about two kinds of people: false disciples (vs. 21) and false prophets (vs. 22). I want to focus today on the first group…false disciples. Here Jesus is describing people who are living their life with an incorrect – or better stated – “unbiblical” definition for true Christianity. People who think they are Christians, but in truth – - are not.

Jesus then illustrates with this well-known parable, “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” Matthew 7:24-27 (emphasis added)

Jesus is clear: there is only one foundation upon which to build a marriage or a life; any foundation other than Christ will not hold up. The evidence of a true believer is whether they obey the words of Jesus.

For a Christian marriage to survive and thrive, it must be built on the gospel of Jesus Christ. If you are not acting upon the words of Jesus, you may not be a believer! If you are not daily applying the words of Jesus to your marriage and family, you may not be a Christian. If this is true for you, you should consider salvation today. Repent of your sin (rebellion against God) and place your faith in the grace-filled work of Christ on the cross. His work on the cross accomplishes the forgiveness of your sins and the justifying of your life before a Holy God. You are forgiven! Rejoice in God’s grace and mercy.

One final thought, no one considers divorce on their Wedding Day…but, put a few years of marriage and life on hearts that are not daily practicing the principles of God and the attitudes of Christ and you have all the makings for your marriage becoming one of those ugly statistics. You and I must be building our lives on the ONLY sure foundation….Jesus Christ.

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